People have been thinking about sex all wrong. Mainstream media, movies, and porn have taught us that sex = penis + vagina, and everything else is just secondary. Standard penetration is how men most reliably achieve orgasm. The problem is, women don't orgasm this way. We've separated our most reliable route to orgasm - clitoral stimulation - from how we feel we should orgasm - penetration. As a result, we've created a pleasure gap between women and men:
50 percent of 18- to 35-year-old women say they have trouble reaching orgasm with a partner
64 percent of women versus 91 percent of men said they had an orgasm at their last sexual encounter
55 percent of men versus 4 percent of women say they usually reach orgasm during first-time hookup sex
In Becoming Cliterate, psychology professor and human sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz exposes the broader cultural problem that's perpetuating this gap and what we can do about it. Pulling together evidence from biology, sociology, linguistics, and sex therapy into one comprehensive, accessible, and prescriptive book, Becoming Cliterate features:
Cultural and historical analysis of female orgasm (spoiler: the problem's been going on for ages)
An anatomy section (it's all custom under the hood)
Proven techniques for cliterate sex (it starts with training the sex organ between your ears)
A comprehensive final chapter for men (because you don't have to have a clitoris to be cliterate)
By dispelling the lies, misunderstandings, and myths that have been holding us back, Becoming Cliterate tackles both personal and political problems and replaces them with updated outlooks and practical skills needed to change our collective perspective on sex. It's time to finally inform women and men on how to have satisfying experiences in bed that benefit both parties.
You've now found the staple t-shirt of your wardrobe. It's made of a thicker, heavier cotton, but it's still soft and comfy. And the double stitching on the neckline and sleeves add more durability to what is sure to be a favorite!
• 100% ringspun cotton
• 4.5 oz/y² (153 g/m²)
• Pre-shrunk
• Shoulder-to-shoulder taping
• Quarter-turned to avoid crease down the center
Experience the unique sensation of bundled rattan with this expertly crafted multi rod spanking cane. The Slap Stick features eight individual rattan rods bound together with a leather-wrapped handle, creating a distinctive implement that delivers sharp, surface-level sensations.
This innovative design combines multiple thin rattan canes into a single spanking toy, offering a broader impact area while maintaining the classic sting that rattan is known for. The bundled construction creates a unique sensation profile - delivering intense surface stimulation that dissipates quickly, making it ideal for those who enjoy sharp, immediate sensations without deep tissue impact.
This BDSM spanking cane is perfect for both newcomers seeking manageable intensity and experienced practitioners looking to add variety to their collection.
What does it feel like?
The bundled design of the Slap Stick BDSM Cane produces a satisfying crack on impact while the sensation remains primarily at skin level. This makes it an excellent choice for extended sessions or for those who prefer intense but brief sensations. The multiple rods create a wider contact area compared to single canes, offering a unique tactile experience.
Product Specs
• Length: 24 inches overall
• Weight: Lightweight at just 4 oz.
• Construction: Eight solid rattan rods
• Handle: Leather wrap for secure, comfortable grip
• Impact Style: Surface-level sting with quick dissipation
Care & Safety
• Always negotiate boundaries and establish safe words before use.
• Focus on fleshy areas and avoid joints, spine, and organs.
RINGER is a thick jelly ring that bloats your meat and pushes your junk up n’ out for a heftier package. Each ring is tight enough for the perfect amount of squeeze on your goods but still comfortable enough for prolonged jerk-off sessions or hot n’ heavy butt banging. Unlike normal cheap-o jelly rings, RINGER is thicker, stronger, and more resilient. After all, OXBALLS toys are designed to give you the most out of your play without having to break the bank. RINGER is one seriously durable fucker…it’s made from our signature FLEX-TPR and stretches up to 5 times its original size (don’t worry, it snaps back to its original shape and dimensions).Thickness: .5”/ 1.27 cmOutside Circumference: 5”/ 12.7 cmInside Circumference (stretches to fit your meat): 1”/ 2.54 cmWeight: 1.2 oz
Whether you're drinking your morning coffee, evening tea, or something in between – this mug's for you! It's sturdy and glossy with a vivid print that'll withstand the microwave and dishwasher. • Ceramic • Dishwasher and microwave safe • White and glossy
* All Kink Brand apparel and mugs are printed to order. Therefore, we cannot guarantee shipping times on these items.
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Thick jelly ring made from signature Flex-TPR stretches up to 5 times
its original size. Thicker, stronger, and more resilient. Inside
circumference is 1 in., stretches to fit. Three black rings per pack.
Sleek chrome butt plug with a beautiful, round-shaped violet jewel base is 2.8 in. high, the ideal size for beginners and a great way to add an erotic twist to doggy style sex. Black velvet carrying bag included.
The brainchild of an experienced and wickedly creative dominant woman, The Mistress Manual gives the curious but shy woman the skills and encouragement needed to turn her male into an obedient, devoted, and happy helpmate!
You've now found the staple t-shirt of your wardrobe. It's made of a thicker, heavier cotton, but it's still soft and comfy. And the double stitching on the neckline and sleeves add more durability to what is sure to be a favorite!
• 100% ringspun cotton
• 4.5 oz/y² (153 g/m²)
• Pre-shrunk
• Shoulder-to-shoulder taping
• Quarter-turned to avoid crease down the center
* All Kink Brand apparel and mugs are printed to order. Therefore, we cannot guarantee shipping times on these items. Additional delays may also occur due to COVID-19.
Discover the prickling anticipation of sensation play with this premium interpretation of a classic design. Originally developed for neurological examinations, the Wartenberg wheel has become an iconic tool in the BDSM community, prized for its ability to deliver precise, controlled sensations ranging from gentle teasing to intense stimulation.
What Sets it Apart
Unlike standard medical versions, this wheel is crafted with the unique needs of sensation enthusiasts in mind. The sophisticated matte black finish and balanced weight distribution offers superior control and feedback during use, allowing for precise pressure control whether you're tracing delicate patterns or applying more assertive pressure.
What does it Feel Like?
Roll it lightly across skin for gentle tingles, or apply pressure for sharper sensations. The rotating wheel adapts to body contours, making it perfect for exploring erogenous zones, creating anticipation, or delivering more intense stimulation as desired.
Travel-Ready
The included padded case protects your investment while ensuring discreet, convenient storage and transport. Compact enough for any collection yet substantial enough to make a lasting impression.
Product Specs
• Weight: 2 oz - perfectly balanced and weighted
• Material: Solid stainless steel construction
• Included: Protective padded carrying case
• Finish: Elegant matte black coating
• Length: 6.5 inches
You've now found the staple t-shirt of your wardrobe. It's made of a thicker, heavier cotton, but it's still soft and comfy. And the double stitching on the neckline and sleeves add more durability to what is sure to be a favorite!
• 100% ringspun cotton
• 4.5 oz/y² (153 g/m²)
• Pre-shrunk
• Shoulder-to-shoulder taping
• Quarter-turned to avoid crease down the center
Adorn your derriere with this dazzling pink gem! The weighted base adds a comfortable and satisfying weight to your anal play, opening a new world of sensation for enthusiasts. The plug is made with nickel free aluminum alloy, perfect for temperature play – heat it up or cool it down for even more sensation.
Color: Hot Pink
Measurements: Overall length 3.7 inches, insertable length 3 inches, diameter at widest point 1.36 inches, base height 0.8 inches.
Add a splash of color to your morning coffee or tea ritual! These ceramic mugs not only have a beautiful design on them, but also a colorful rim, handle, and inside, so the mug is bound to spice up your mug rack.
• Ceramic
• Height: 3.85″ (9.8 cm)
• Diameter: 3.35″ (8.5 cm)
• White print area
• Color rim, inside, and handle
• Dishwasher and microwave safe
