Say hello to your new favorite flogger. Tops and bottoms alike love the feel of this luxurious, high-quality flogger. It's made with 100% genuine leather and a sturdy, patent leather handle. It's well-balanced and built to last. Tease softly along the skin or use it at a full swing for an exquisite feeling upon impact. When storing, keep your flogger in excellent condition by hanging from the strap to avoid crumpling and moisture or mildew damage.PRO TIP: To avoid tangling and wrapping, swing the flogger in a circular motion a few times before making contact.• Full length of 33"• 100% Genuine leather• Well-balanced weight• 30 soft black leather falls• 9" Patent-leather handleMaterial: 100% Genuine leatherWeight: 1.6 lbs (726g)Dimensions: Full length is 33" (83.8cm); falls are 24" (61cm) long, approx. 1/4" (6mm) wide; handle is 9" (22.9cm) long
This classic red ball gag is a quintessential tool for ultimate submission. Render the wearer's speech unintelligible, stretch the mouth open, and cause an arousing amount of drooling. This gag is beautifully crafted with a 100% genuine leather strap, high-quality hardware, and a soft silicone ball gag.PRO TIP: Any mouth gag makes breathing more difficult. Keep the wearer's nose completely clear and remember that a gagged subject should never be left unattended.• 100% Genuine leather• Fully adjustable length of 16" to 21" (40.6cm - 53.3cm) with buckle settling on the back of the neck• For all levels of play• High-quality, odorless, tasteless silicone gagMaterial: 100% Genuine leather, metal, siliconeWeight: 3.6 oz (102g)Dimensions: Fully adjustable size range of 16" - 21" (40.6cm - 53.3cm); silicone bit length is 4.5" (11.4cm); ball diameter is 1.75" (45mm))
Real leather for the BDSM player
Introducing the Whipped Ass BDSM Essentials Kit. This collection of six KINK premium pieces is curated by Kink Store staff (ahem) to set you up for success. This BDSM essentials kit is designed to deliver the basis of a gear collection that will grow with you.
Built for Use
• Save 25% with the Kit over purchasing all six items individually.
• Real leather and heavy duty hardware you can count on
• Battle-tested by professionals
• KINK guaranteed
Kit Contents
Signature Leather Wrist CuffsHand-crafted from top-grain leather with reinforced stitching and heavy duty, locking hardwareClassic Ball GagA staple in any toy bag. Body-safe silicone ball with premium leather strap and adjustable buckleNo Peek Leather BlindfoldButtery-soft leather construction blocks light completely while maintaining a comfortable fitPadded PaddleDual-sided design featuring smooth, padded leather on one side and hard surface on the other. Balanced weight and comfortable handle for great controlClose Quarters 18" FloggerCompact yet effective design with lush, supple leather falls and leather wrapped handle. Perfect weight distribution for both beginners and experienced usersTweezer Nipple ClampsAdjustable pressure control and protective tips make this product the number one choice for sensitive nipplesAll Natural LubeSay goodbye to friction and hello to pure pleasure
Why Choose Professional Quality?
Built to Last: While cheaper alternatives are really just novelty items made from fake leather and plastic, KINK gear is built to provide years of service for demanding professionals and BDSM players.
Perfect For
• BDSM enthusiasts building the foundation of a solid BDSM gear collection• Discerning beginners who want to start with quality that won't need replacing• Experienced practitioners looking to upgrade from entry-level equipment• Couples exploring power dynamics with confidence in their tools• Gift-givers who understand that quality matters in intimate settings
Product Specs
• Materials: 100% genuine leather, body-safe silicone and heavy duty hardware• Kit Value: 30% savings vs. individual item prices• Quality Standard: Professional KINK.com BDSM gear• Includes: All six items plus premium storage case• Warranty: Full 101 day guarantee backed by KINK.com
The Professional Difference
When KINK.com needs equipment that works every time under pressure, they choose BDSM gear by Kink Store. Now you can experience that same uncompromising quality in your personal exploration. This isn't just equipment - it's your gateway to authentic, safe, and satisfying BDSM experiences.
BDSM Essentials Kit by KINK
Where professional quality meets personal passion.
Thor's Hammer by Kink is the ultimate collectors piece for ‘thuddy’ impact play. A beautifully riveted mallet head sits atop a woven black and red leather handle, with an added wrist strap for support. The impact points of the mallet are slightly padded for comfort and safety. Even with the padding, this hammer packs a punch!
Our small hammer is perfect for all levels of experienced impact enthusiasts, measuring just 14 inches. The extra extended leather wrist strap is closed in the middle, leaving the tail pieces to be a great two tail whip. Our large hammer would proudly be the pièce de resistance of any dungeon. Measuring in at a whopping 23 inches this massive piece will have you feeling very powerful. Almost like a sexy croquet mallet, this weighty piece is the ultimate item in “thuddy” impact play.Leather with metal detailsPadded impact pointsWrist strapSafety note: The large hammer is very large. Actual injuries can occur, please regularly check in with your partner.Material: 100% genuine leatherWeight: SM: 11oz (313g), LG: 43oz (1220g)Dimensions: SM: 14” (35.6cm) x 5”(12.7cm) x 2.25”(5.7cm) w/ 21” (53.3cm) tail.LG: 24” (61cm) x 7.5” (19cm) x 4” (10.2cm)
A blindfold that actually works! This sexy cat-eye blindfold is padded with thick leather that conforms to the shape of the eye socket to prevent 'peeking'. Elegantly lined with red trim, this blindfold looks amazing with a matching leather collar and cuffs set. Surprise and tantalize with this gorgeous leather blindfold.
Features• Snug and effective no-peek fit• High-quality metal hardware• 100% Genuine leather• Fully adjustable strap
This high-quality, patent-leather-handled flogger is made with 100% genuine leather. Well balanced and with a comfortable grip, you or your partner can graze the skin for a pleasurable sensation or use it at a full swing for a warm sting upon impact. Using the wrist strap can help mitigate any risks of accidents. Store hanging from the strap to avoid crumpling and moisture or mildew damage to keep your flogger in excellent condition.PRO TIP: To avoid tangling and wrapping, swing the flogger in a circular motion a few times before making contact.• Full length of 18"• 100% Genuine leather• Well-balanced weight• 30 falls, each 12" long• 6" Patent-leather handleMaterial: 100% Genuine leatherWeight: 6.4 oz (181g)Dimensions: Full length of 18" (457mm); falls are 12" (305mm) long and 1/4" (6mm) wide; handle is 6" (152mm) long
This elegant, 100% genuine leather paddle is sure to tease and please you or your partner's booty. This compact, two-in-one paddle is an impact player's dream. No more awkward switching between paddles mid-scene. It allows for both, thundering 'thuddy' teasing on one side, and satisfying slaps of greater intensity on the other, keeping even the most experienced sub on the edge of their seat. The cricket-style ergonomic paddle is flexible and allows for quite an impact. One of the most erotic noises you'll hear in your bedroom is the SMACK or THUD of this sexy paddle.• 100% Genuine leather• 2 sided, one 'thuddy' and one 'stingy'• Flexible ergonomic cricket-style handle• For all levels of playMaterial: 100% Genuine leatherWeight: 6.4 oz (181g)Dimensions: Full length is 14" (35.6cm); 6.5" x 3" (16.5cm x 7.6cm) padded paddle surface
So They are Tied Up, Now What? This kit answers that age old question with a professional grade combination of bondage gear and sex toys. Leather and chain restraints are great for bondage, but even better when combined with sex toys and a firm whip for some good old fashioned reward and punishment.
What’s in the Box?
Plush Leather Cuff & Collar Set
Four Lengths of Chain and Connectors
30” Leather Flogger
Leather Blindfold & Ball Gag
Little Devil Clit Vibrator
G Spot Metal Wand
T-Handle Anal Plug
Silicone Cockrings
Black Backpack & Tube of Lube
Bondage & Hardware
These cuffs have just the right amount of stretch to give the bondage a cushy, firm feel. Cinch them down tight and sink into the feeling of safe, secure restraint. Heavy duty D-rings are easy to clip into, and the four lengths of chain and multiple connectors make 4-point spread eagle bondage positions a snap.
Sensory Deprivation
Take away sight, and nerve endings become more sensitive. Take away speech, and everything gets hotter and wetter still. Kink’s included leather blindfold is soft and padded so it covers the eyes reliably. And the ball gag is just classic.
Reward and Punishment
Once the bondage canvas is set, it is important to have the tools to paint some kinky memories. This kit covers both ends of the reward - punishment spectrum. The 30” leather flogger packs a firm wallop, but it is light enough to sting with the right technique. The clit vibe, cock rings and stainless steel insertables are designed to hit the right spots to maximize reward.
Backed by Kink and Kink Store
All Kink branded products are fully guaranteed to show you a good time or we will take them back and discipline them. We promise.
Bundle of Value
This is a screaming deal. Never mind that our gear is already priced cheaper than the competitors. That’s just normal. But also - our retail price for all these items is over $400. At $299, you are saving $100 on this amazing kit.
All the Kinks in this bundle:
Five Piece Red Leather Cuff & Collar Set
Double Riveted D-rings and Sturdy Straps and Buckles
Wrist Cuffs
Ankle Cuffs
Thick Collar
Leather Blindfold
Genuine Leather Construction
Sturdy Strap and Buckle
Padded for Superior Sensory Deprivation
Classic Ball Gag
Genuine leather strap with firm buckle
Soft silicone ball
G Spot or Prostate Metal Wand
Classic Wand Design
Solid Stainless Steel
Gratifying Weight
T-Handle Metal Plug
Easy Going Shape
One Piece Stainless Steel Build
T-handle for Easy Grip
Excellent Anal Warm up Toy
Wood Handle Flogger
Calf Leather Falls
Polished Wood Handle
22” Falls, 8” Handle
Flogger handle is slightly different than the photos shown here
Silicone Cockrings
Pair of Lasso-Style Cockrings
Chain and Connectors
Four 3’ Lengths of Stainless Steel Chain
Four Stainless Steel Anchor Shackles
Four Stainless Steel Double Snap Hooks
All Natural Lube
All natural, water based lube
Compatible with every type of toy and condom material
Kink Backpack
Cool Black Backpack for Storage or Travel
As devious as they look. Once they’re on, you can up the intensity by tugging — but you can only lower it with full removal. (Hint: Start by placing them farther back with more flesh between.) Elegantly industrial look with a single chain. Pads are wider than tweezer-style clamps and uncoated. Pro Tip: Exhale during clamp removal as the blood rushes back into the nipples.• Stimulate the nipples in style • Provides gentle to intense sensation • Popular for all levels of play • Elegantly industrial look
Weight: 1.9oz (53g)
Dimensions: Clamp 3.75" (9.5cm) long x 1.5" (3.8cm) wide x 0.38" (0.97cm) deep, Max opening 0.5" (1.3cm), total length with chain 19.25" (48.9cm)
Experience extreme sensation play and ramp up the psychological intimidation with this amazing extreme BDSM pinwheel. This is a serious piece of hardware that will surely raise some eyebrows when it comes out of your toy bag.
Nine wheels and 198 pins make this device a sensation slut's wet dream. Roll these wheels over any body part and it will fires nerve endings and raise the temperature on any erotic BDSM scene.
Commanding Presence
The Cat O Nine makes an immediate visual impact with its imposing design featuring nine precision wheels arranged in a striking configuration. This isn't just about appearance — the construction and materials signal serious intent for those ready to explore intense sensation play. It is seriously - sensational.
What does it Feel Like?
The multiple wheels work in concert to create waves of sensation that cascade across the skin. Whether used with light pressure for tingling anticipation or applied more firmly for intense stimulation, the Cat O Nine provides an unmatched sensation profile.
Built to Last
The solid stainless steel construction ensures durability while providing easy cleaning and maintenance. The included padded case protects your investment and ensures discreet transport.
The Cat O Nine Extreme BDSM Pinwheel is perfect for experienced practitioners seeking to push boundaries or add dramatic flair to their sensation play repertoire.
Product Specs
• Total Pins: 198 precision-crafted contact points
• Construction: Premium stainless steel throughout
• Weight: 9 oz - substantial feel with excellent balance
• Dimensions: 11.5" length x 2" width
• Included: Protective padded carrying case
These beautifully polished metal ring clamps have the look of industrial-style nipple piercings. These are cost effective but nevertheless durable and simple-to-use clamps. The intensity of the pinch is non-adjustable, but they apply a generous amount of pressure. Take advantage of their quick and easy application and removal and enjoy having your hands free to do other things. They are small enough to fit in your pocket and bring anywhere you want to play!Pro Tip: Exhaling during clamp removal decreases the level of discomfort as blood rushes back to nipples. • Polished metal• Non-adjustable intensity • For all levels of play Material: MetalWeight: Each clamp weighs 1 oz (28g) Dimensions: Length from handle to handle is 2" (51mm); diameter of ring opening is 1" (25mm); pinching surface is 1/4" (6mm) across
Experience the unique sensation of bundled rattan with this expertly crafted multi rod spanking cane. The Slap Stick features eight individual rattan rods bound together with a leather-wrapped handle, creating a distinctive implement that delivers sharp, surface-level sensations.
This innovative design combines multiple thin rattan canes into a single spanking toy, offering a broader impact area while maintaining the classic sting that rattan is known for. The bundled construction creates a unique sensation profile - delivering intense surface stimulation that dissipates quickly, making it ideal for those who enjoy sharp, immediate sensations without deep tissue impact.
This BDSM spanking cane is perfect for both newcomers seeking manageable intensity and experienced practitioners looking to add variety to their collection.
What does it feel like?
The bundled design of the Slap Stick BDSM Cane produces a satisfying crack on impact while the sensation remains primarily at skin level. This makes it an excellent choice for extended sessions or for those who prefer intense but brief sensations. The multiple rods create a wider contact area compared to single canes, offering a unique tactile experience.
Product Specs
• Length: 24 inches overall
• Weight: Lightweight at just 4 oz.
• Construction: Eight solid rattan rods
• Handle: Leather wrap for secure, comfortable grip
• Impact Style: Surface-level sting with quick dissipation
Care & Safety
• Always negotiate boundaries and establish safe words before use.
• Focus on fleshy areas and avoid joints, spine, and organs.
Strike the perfect balance between visual impact and controlled sensation with these distinctive stainless steel clamps. The Talon's dramatic aesthetic creates powerful psychological anticipation, while the innovative plunger mechanism delivers surprisingly manageable intensity.
Key Features
• Beginner-Friendly Design: Less intense than traditional clover clamps while maintaining visual appeal
• Premium Construction: Durable stainless steel build ensures longevity and easy maintenance
• Psychological Play Element: Striking appearance enhances anticipation and mental stimulation
• Controlled Release: Plunger system provides quick, easy removal when desired
Perfect For
• Experienced players who enjoy mind games and visual drama
• Couples exploring nipple play for the first time
• Sessions where prolonged wear is desired
• Building anticipation through visual impact
The Talon Tit Clamps prove that sometimes the most intimidating toys can be the most approachable - delivering psychological intensity with physical comfort.
The next big thing in mind fuckery is here, the barbed wire flogger by Kink. What you’ll see is sharp terrifying barbed wire, but what you’ll feel is buttery soft falls. This flogger is made with 100% genuine calf leather and has two different types of falls to give you the standard flogger satisfaction you crave. Tease softly along the skin or give it a full swing for a delicious thwack upon impact. This flogger’s weight is well balanced and just light enough to keep going to your heart's desire.Pro Tip: Store hanging from the wrist strap to prevent crumpling and moisture damage.Safety Tip: With longer falls novices should be mindful of wrapping and tangling.
Long 21” falls
Mixed barbed wire and traditional falls
Kid leather handle
Material: Calf Leather, Kid LeatherWeight: 15.6 oz (442.3g) Dimensions: 30”(76.2 cm) x 3.5” (8.9 cm) x 3.5” (8.9 cm)
Discover the prickling anticipation of sensation play with this premium interpretation of a classic design. Originally developed for neurological examinations, the Wartenberg wheel has become an iconic tool in the BDSM community, prized for its ability to deliver precise, controlled sensations ranging from gentle teasing to intense stimulation.
What Sets it Apart
Unlike standard medical versions, this wheel is crafted with the unique needs of sensation enthusiasts in mind. The sophisticated matte black finish and balanced weight distribution offers superior control and feedback during use, allowing for precise pressure control whether you're tracing delicate patterns or applying more assertive pressure.
What does it Feel Like?
Roll it lightly across skin for gentle tingles, or apply pressure for sharper sensations. The rotating wheel adapts to body contours, making it perfect for exploring erogenous zones, creating anticipation, or delivering more intense stimulation as desired.
Travel-Ready
The included padded case protects your investment while ensuring discreet, convenient storage and transport. Compact enough for any collection yet substantial enough to make a lasting impression.
Product Specs
• Weight: 2 oz - perfectly balanced and weighted
• Material: Solid stainless steel construction
• Included: Protective padded carrying case
• Finish: Elegant matte black coating
• Length: 6.5 inches
This eye-catching, industrial-style clamp system looks amazing draped from the nipples and labia. It provides constant, hands-free stimulation so you can reserve your hands for other sexy activities. These easily adjusted clamps are great for all levels of play. Just tighten or loosen the side screw for a mild to more intense sensation. The coated ends prevent unwanted pinching. Admire and adorn your plaything with this hot and elegant, industrial-style accessory!Pro Tip: Exhale during clamp removal to ease discomfort as blood rushes back into the nipples and labia.• Screws provide adjustable intensity• For all levels of play• Elegant, industrial style• High-quality, durable hardwareMaterials: Metal, soft plasticWeight: 7.4 oz (210g)Dimensions: Collar chain is 26" (66cm); nipple chains are 6" (15cm) long; labia chains are 23" (58cm); center O-ring is 1" (2.5cm); clamps are 2"(5cm) long
Want to add some bling to your BDSM collection? These adorably sexy clover clamps look perfect dangling from nipples or other parts of the body. The intensity of the pinch is non-adjustable, but they apply the perfect amount of pressure to elevate the excitement while you play. The best thing about clover clamps is the ease of use. They are so quick and easy to apply and remove that these devious little clamps will soon become one of your favorite accessories. Once they’re on, up the ante with tugging and pulling. Or enjoy having your hands free to do other things.
Pro Tips: You can increase the intensity by lessening the amount of flesh between the clamps. Exhaling during clamp removal decreases the level of discomfort as blood rushes back to nipples.• Two durable, easy-to-use clamps• Pinching surface has a soft plastic pad for safety and comfort• Non-adjustable intensity• For all levels of play• High-quality metal constructionMaterial: MetalWeight: 1.6 oz (45g)Dimensions: Length of chain is 12" (305mm); clamp length is 3.5" (89mm); pinching surface is 1/4" (6mm) wide
Experience erotic tactile sensations with this elegantly crafted stainless steel BDSM implement. The Bear Claw's ergonomic form fits naturally around your fingers, allowing you to create a range of sensations from feather-light traces to more intense contact.
The Bear Claw combines sophistication with functionality, making it a welcome addition to any sensation play collection. Its intuitive design requires no learning curve while offering endless possibilities for creative exploration.
Key Features
• Premium stainless steel construction for durability and easy maintenance
• Lightweight design (2 oz) for seamless, comfortable use
• Ergonomic finger-worn design for precise control
• Smooth finish that's body-safe and easy to clean
• Compact size for discreet storage and travel
Perfect for
• Sensation play enthusiasts
• Temperature play (can be warmed or cooled)
• Couples exploring tactile experiences
• Both beginners and experienced practitioners
Care Instructions
Clean with mild soap and water or toy cleaner. Stainless steel construction allows for complete sterilization if desired.
The Dual Sensation Two Finger Pinwheel fits snugly over the tips of your fingers to free up your hand for other things. Unlike traditional handheld pinwheels, this double pinwheel becomes an extension of your own touch. The ergonomic finger mounts secure comfortably over your fingertips, leaving your palm and remaining fingers completely free for simultaneous caressing, holding - or other things.
Imagine the control of cupping your bound partner's genitals in the palm of your hand with this implement attached to your fingertips.
Pro Tip: Consider purchasing multiple units to outfit additional fingers for even more complex sensation combinations and expanded coverage areas.
Product Specs
• Material: Solid stainless steel construction
• Wheels: Two balanced rolling wheels with sharp pins
• Fit: Secure finger-tip mounting designed for comfort
This beautifully crafted, wooden-handled flogger is made with 100% genuine soft suede leather. You or your partner can graze the skin for a pleasant touch or use a full swing for a warm stinging sensation upon impact. The additional weight provides greater balance. The longer length is recommended for intermediate-expert handlers. Beginners can use a longer length, but with caution to avoid tangling and wrapping. Please use the wrist strap to mitigate any risks of accidents. Store hanging from the strap to avoid crumpling and moisture or mildew damage to keep your flogger in excellent condition. The wrist strap can be adjusted to be moved closer or farther away from the tails.<br data-mce-fragment=">• Well balanced• 100% Genuine soft suede leather• 36 black and red 22" long soft suede falls• 8" Leather Herringbone Woven Polished Wooden Handle• Equipped with a Turk knot and leather wrist strapMaterial: 100% Genuine leather; WoodWeight: 12.8 oz (363g)Dimensions: Full length is 31" (787mm); leather falls are 22" (559mm) long and 1/4" (6mm) wide; handle is 8" (203mm) long
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Keep your pony in line with this beautifully crafted leather riding crop. The classic model is an essential BDSM impact play toy. This crop features a gorgeous red and black braided wand and a comfortable, non-slip grip handle. Hang it up by the looped strap for display when not in use, so you can remind your sub of what happens if they get out of line.• 100% Genuine leather• Ergonomic, non-slip handle• For all levels of playMaterial: 100% Genuine Leather.Weight: 3.2 ozDimensions: Length is 29", including a 7" handle
Adorn your body with these luxurious chain nipple clamps and watch as your nipples perk up with excitement. These tweezer-style clamps stimulate the nipple, leaving your hands free to do other sexy activities. These clamps are great for beginners. Just slide the adjuster to create a mild to more intense sensation. The coated ends prevent unwanted pinching. Pro Tip: Exhale during clamp removal as the blood rushes back into the nipples.• Enhances the look and feel of nipples• Provides gentle to moderate sensation• Easy to use; great for beginners• Looks like jewelryMaterial: Metal, plasticWeight: 0.6 oz (17g)Dimensions: Length of clamp is 2.75" (7cm); length of chain is 12.25" (31cm)
Up the intensity of your play with these stainless steel nipples to clit clamps. You control the level of pleasure with 3 clamps joined by a durable stainless steel chain. Stimulate the nipples and clit while keeping your hands free to do other exciting things. Change the intensity via an easily adjustable side screw. Soft-coated clamps prevent unwanted discomfort, ensuring you or your partner's comfort and safety.Pro Tip: Exhale during clamp removal as the blood rushes back in.• Stimulates the nipples and clitoris• Adjustable level of intensity• High-quality stainless steel hardware• Elegant looking constructionMaterial: Stainless steelWeight: 3.2 oz (91g)Dimensions: Length from nipple clams to center ring is 10" (254mm); Length from clit clamp to center ring is 16" (406mm)
Kink’s new Rainbow Flogger is a must-have for anyone looking for a unique and eye-catching addition to their BDSM collection. The flogger is beautifully crafted with 24-inch falls made from high-quality, soft suede that provides a satisfying impact with each swing. The handle is made from a durable, herring-bone leather weave that is comfortable to hold and easy to wield. The smoothly blended rainbow colors give this flogger a magical and playful touch, making it perfect for those who want to add a bit of fun and color to their play.Pro Tip: Store hanging from the wrist strap to prevent crumpling and moisture damage.Safety Tip: With longer falls novices should be mindful of wrapping and tangling.
100% Suede Calf Leather
For all levels of experience
36 rainbow or black 21” falls
Material: Suede calf leatherWeight: 13.1 oz (370g)Dimensions: 31” (78.7cm) total length; Falls 21” (53.3cm) long x 0.375” (0.95cm)wide; Handle 9.5” (24.1cm) long x 1.5” (3.8cm) wide
BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism (or sometimes DS = dominance and submission, depending on one's sensibilities).
BDSM is a lexicon of behaviors and activities surrounding the celebration of sexual freedom and alternative sexuality. BDSM experiences can range from highly ritualistic patterns of behavior to light-hearted, fleeting dalliances. A BDSMer may be a committed life-styler, or a curious passerby in any number of exchanges.
There is a saying: BDSM is like an all you can eat buffet--take what you want, and leave the rest on the table. For now.
What are BDSM activities?
BDSM activities may involve restraints, light or heavy impact play, psychological control and/or various expressions of kinky sex and intimacy. It is not uncommon for BDSM players to experience and process pain and sensation differently than most people, although pain is not always a component of BDSM play.
What is consent in BDSM?
Informed consent is the central tenet of all ethical BDSM. Consent is an ongoing and enthusiastic agreement between all involved players to engage. Consent may be withdrawn at anytime with no consequence.
Consent is the manifestation of trust between all involved.
What is BDSM negotiation?
Negotiation in BDSM involves the discussion of the players' safewords, hard and soft limits, likes and dislikes. Thorough negotiation includes planning post scene aftercare and possibly longer term followup, as well as potential contingency plans should something go awry in a scene.
A seasoned BDSM player plans for mutually desired outcomes and plots the best possible course of action to achieve those goals in a way that is risk aware, enriching and ultimately, satisfying.
What is BDSM play?
At its core, BDSM is about playing with authority.
Once consent and boundaries are in place, the players enter a field of play that is of their own making. The behaviors and activities that occur in this field may range from mild psychological discipline such as controlling one's posture, speech or behaviors all the way to extreme restraints, tests of physical capacity. Some BDSM experiences are even focused on spiritual enlightenment.
The duration of play sessions may be very short, made up of brief encounters, or long term involving written contracts that span weeks, months or even years. The range of experience is up to the players involved, their circumstances and ability to function in a healthy way both inside and outside of their chosen dynamic.
What are the pillars of BDSM play?
The overarching, classical components of BDSM play are bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism (dominance and submission). In a very basic sense, these components may be seen as a mix and match buffet where we take what we want and leave the rest on the table:
Bondage: the craft of restraining an individual usually with leather, steel or rope restraints. Bondage might range from very comfortable to very uncomfortable, and may or may not include sensory deprivation, mental bondage or confinement as in cages, cells.
Discipline: the manifestation of erotic authority. Discipline is the framework for behavior where players can eroticize the giving and receiving of rules. Erotic tension is built on the enforcement of those rules, and plays out in the resulting punishments and rewards. Note: all rewards are best when they are hard earned.
Sadism: Erotic sadism is the celebration of giving a consenting masochist the sensations they crave in a controlled and trusted environment.
Masochism: Erotic masochism is the joy of receiving pain in a safe, consensual and satisfying way. Many masochists innately understand or learn how to process pain and transmute it into intense pleasure.
Dominance: Dominance can be described as taking the lead in a given BDSM interaction and controlling the dynamic through previously negotiated means to satisfy the desires of the players involved.
Submission: Erotic submission may be seen as the consensual subjugation of oneself to the given authority of a play partner.
What are BDSM toys?
Kinky toys are many and varied. One can have a great scene at home with just a wooden kitchen spoon and a length of clothesline. Or, one might experience a fully equipped BDSM dungeon with custom bondage furniture, overhead hoists and heavy leather. In perspective, the location and the toys are just the tools meant to implement the good stuff: the human connection.
Good BDSM is known to heighten intimacy, communication, empathy and deepen our understanding of one another.
What is in a BDSM Toy Bag?
BDSM enthusiasts work to build a collection of kinky equipment that suits their unique style and interests. A well put together BDSM toy bag might include some or all of the following toys:
From a dominant's perspective, one way to play is to focus on controlling the submissive's nervous system. When we control the submissive's movement and senses, we can control sensory input and rate of that input.
For example, five swats with 5 seconds in between is a lot different than five swats with one second in between. The body needs time to dissipate the sensory input of the swats, and when the rate is pushed, the system begins to overload in the most delightful ways.
From a submissive's POV, one approach is to welcome the pain. In the words of masochist Madison Young:
"Masochists witness the vibration of pain with an open and fearless heart. We welcome it in, observe it, and guide it on a journey of transformation and ecstatic release."
Kinds of BDSM Play
What is impact play?
BDSM often, but not always, incorporates impact toys like floggers, whips and canes to stimulate the nervous system and trigger the release of various hormones and chemicals. Impact play can quickly lead to an endorphin high, commonly known as 'sub-space'. This physiological state can range from a slight sense of euphoria to a quest for spiritual enlightenment.
What does impact play feel like?
The most common descriptors for impact are sting vs. thud. Players sometimes identify as a 'thud' player or a 'sting' lover. Thuddy impact is achieved with big, thick floggers, paddles or even a BDSM Hammer.
Stingy sensations are best doled out with a cane, a crop or even a BDSM Zapper.
It is often, but not always, advisable to mix the two spheres of sensation so as to break up the pain profile that the nervous system is made to process. For example, one might commonly see a sadist using a heavy flogger in combination with a stingy cane.
What is sensation play?
Sensation play refers to the use of Wartenberg wheels (pinwheels), scratchers and other devices that are usually dragged across the skin or poked into the flesh of the masochist. Sensation toys are sometimes used as an add-on to a larger BDSM scene, and they fit nicely within the medical play aesthetic of BDSM.
What is sensory deprivation play?
When we are deprived of one sense, our other senses become more sensitive. Things get really interesting when we are deprived of multiple senses.
Gags are a great place to start with sensory deprivation. There is a strong element of control, but eye contact is still possible, giving a sense of safety and unspoken communication. Adding a blindfold ramps things up because now not only is the submissive unable to see their partner, but they also cannot see the flogger or the pinwheel.
Pro tip: use time to accentuate the feelings of sensory deprivation.
What are nipple clamps like?
Given our experience of clamping thousands of people's nipples, we can say with confidence that no four nipples are alike. Nipple size, shape and sensitivity vary widely and everyone has their own preferences. A well stocked toy bag contains a variety of nipple clamps: clovers, tweezers, talons, magnetic... when starting out, it is best to try a variety of clamps to find what you like best.
Here at KINK, we bring three decades of real BDSM experience to the table. We have created literally tens of thousands of BDSM scenes with thousands of different people. Since our beginning in the 1990s, KINK has managed to create the largest library of BDSM content in the world and execute on it's mission: to demystify alternate sexuality. In matters of ethical BDSM, it is safe to say we have seen it all.
