The depths of the mindfuck are potentially bottomless when the framework is built on trust and intimacy.
Extreme BDSM Foundations
By far, my most memorable experience working for KINK.com is shooting Diary of a Madman 2 with JP the Pope for KINK.com. DOM was shot in 2022, which is crazy to me — it doesn't feel like that long ago! The film is written and directed by JP, and he also stars in it with me.
JP and I have worked together many times before shooting DOM. This intimacy we share allows us to push as hard as we do. Trust and experience are the bedrock of extreme BDSM.
Diary of a Madman 2 is a feature narrative that centers around revenge. In the film, I'm a director who has clawed my way to the top of the industry. After a super stressful week at work, I come home and lose my temper with the contractor who is working on my house. That's when things go sideways.
The film delves into many psychological elements of BDSM, including Consensual Non-Consent (CNC), Stockholm syndrome, power dynamics, and hardcore BDSM.
What is Full Immersion BDSM?
We shot DOM over the course of five days. This long stretch of filming an ongoing BDSM scene definitely adds to both the physical and emotional intensity of the experience. The cumulative effect is one of fatigue and complete surrender. The whole experience leaves me raw and completely open in a really powerful and intimate way.
Waking up every day and leaning into doing something creative with my friends is an incredible experience. JP and I are already close, but doing this film brings us much closer.
Extreme Bondage Play
We have five days to play, and we explore a ton of different bondage positions during this shoot. My highlights include full body mummification with bondage wrap. I remember being completely mummified and then laid out on the dining table like a centerpiece while JP attempts to feed me scrambled eggs!
How to Process Pain in Impact Play
I consider myself a heavy bottom and masochist, and I have different techniques I use to process pain in heavy BDSM impact scenes. Probably the most important technique I rely on is breathwork: remembering I can breathe and breathe through it.
We engage in a lot of extreme impact play while suspended by cuffs from my ankles in rope bondage, breath play in the hot tub, and one of the most intense electric BDSM scenes of my life.
In KINK We Trust
While I'm nervous going into shooting DOM, I know I'm able to handle it. Being able to accomplish something like this week-long KINK experience is something I'll never forget. It's an experience that validates my belief in myself and in what I'm capable of when I've developed intimate trust with my scene partner.
I trust JP to push me to the limit but never an inch over, and knowing that trust exists before the scene starts allows me to lean into the sensations, lean further into a place of deep surrender, and have a really great time.
Ultimate Fear Play Unlocked
We do a lot of heavy BDSM while shooting DOM, but on day 5, JP and I do something neither one of us has done before but have always fantasized about—we bury me alive. This is ultimate fear play.
We figure out all the safety components, dig a hole at the Kink Ranch in Vegas, wait for dusk, and do a scene I don't think either one of us will ever forget. It's incredibly emotional, the stakes are obviously very high, and both of us are so proud of the work we do when we successfully pull it off.
